1. Grief doesn’t follow a schedule.
There is no deadline for feeling better. You may feel steady one day and overwhelmed the next, even long after a loss. A difficult day doesn’t erase progress.
Try this: Ask, “What do I need today?” instead of “Shouldn’t I be over this?”
2. Grief can show up in your body and everyday life.
You might notice tiredness, disrupted sleep, changes in appetite, difficulty concentrating, or less patience than usual. Ordinary tasks may take more effort.
Try this: Make room for small basics: water, something to eat, rest, and one manageable task.
3. Your feelings may contradict each other.
Sadness and relief, love and anger can all exist at the same time. You may feel numb when you expect to cry, or laugh when you least expect it.
Try this: Name what’s happening in the moment without judging it: “Right now, I feel ____.”
4. Other people may not know how to support you.
Some people go quiet and withdraw. Others offer (unsolicited) advice or try to “fix” what you’re feeling. Their discomfort can leave you feeling lonely, even when they mean well.
Try this: “I don’t need you to fix this. Please just listen, bring a meal, or check in again next week.”
5. Joy and grief can coexist.
Enjoying a moment doesn’t mean you’re not still hurting, or over what has happened. They are two sides of the same coin.
Try this: Allow yourself to experience the temporary moments of relief when they come. More than likely, your brain and body can use the reprieve.
You don’t have to grieve alone.
No one should have to grieve alone. You don’t have to be strong for anyone. You deserve space to feel supported and cared for, too.
Try this: Share your feelings with someone you trust, attend a community memorial, or join a grief circle. You can also contact us to schedule a free initial session, learn about our services, ask questions, and explore what feels right for you.
